Book List | Parenting |
Back to Book List Adolescents
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www.pndc.com |
Non-defensive communication |
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Yes, Your Teen is Crazy! Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind |
Bradley, Michael
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Yes, Your Parents are Crazy! A Teen Survival Guide |
Bradley, Michael & Aiken, Clay |
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Just Tell Me What To Say: Sensible Tips and Scripts for Perplexed Parents |
Braun, Betsy Brown |
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Parenting Tips: Praise Can Be Bad; Lying Is Normal |
Bronson, Po |
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Parenting Teens With Love And Logic |
Cline, Foster & Fay, Jim |
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Parenting Teenagers: The Systematic Training for Effective Parenting of Teens (STEP Program) |
Dinkmeyer, Don & McKay, Gary |
A bit dated |
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Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love: Relationship Repair in a Flash |
Dreyfus, Nancy |
Initially for couples, but also extremely effective for parents and kids- interactive tool that uses written messages to show how connecting to vulnerability can interrupt defensiveness and get two combative people starting to like each other again |
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How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk |
Faber, Adele & Mazlish, Elaine |
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The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children |
Greene, Ross W. |
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Giving the Love that Heals: For Parents |
Hendrix, Harville |
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Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys |
Kindlon, Dan & Thompson, Michael |
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Setting Limits: How to Raise Responsible, Independent Children by Providing Clear Boundaries |
Mackenzie, Robert J. |
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Setting Limits with Your Strong-Willed Child, Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition: Eliminating Conflict by Establishing CLEAR, Firm, and Respectful Boundaries |
Mackenzie, Robert J. |
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To Change a Mind: Parenting to Promote Maturity in Teenagers |
McKinnon, John |
Useful for clinicians and parents, focus on empathy and limit-setting |
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Boundaries, Revised and Revisited |
Mellody, Pia |
From “The Meadows;” fun to listen to |
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Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers |
Neufeld, Gordon & Mate, Gabor |
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Working with Parents Makes Therapy Work |
Novick, Jack & Novick, Kerry Kelly |
Addresses the unfortunate tradition amongst therapists to avoid contact with parents of adolescent patients. Each piece of work--that with the adolescent as well as that with the parent/s--remains confidential, but the issue of the parent-child relationship is taken up directly in the parent work |
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Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls |
Pipher, Mary |
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Real Boys |
Pollack, William |
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I Don't Want to Talk About It |
Real, Terry |
Discusses cultural influence on men and boys and the role that depression plays to mask issues; Most excellent book |
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Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers |
Riera, Michael |
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When No One Understands: Letters to a Teenager on Life, Loss, and the Hard Road to Adulthood |
Sachs, Brad |
Other titles by author recommended |
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The Good Enough Teen: Raising Adolescents with Love and Acceptance (Despite How Impossible They Can Be) |
Sachs, Brad |
Supports empathy toward angry, difficult teens |
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The Anxiety Workbook for Teens |
Schab, Lisa M. |
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How to Connect with Your iTeen: A Parenting Roadmap |
Shaffer, Susan Morris & Perlman-Gordon, Linda |
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Why Boys Don't Talk and Why It Matters: A Parent’s Survival Guide to Connecting with Your Teen |
Shaffer, Susan Morris & Perlman-Gordon, Linda |
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No Drama Discipline |
Siegel, Daniel |
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Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain |
Siegel, Daniel |
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The Courage to Raise Good Men |
Silverstein, Olga |
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Facts of Life for Boys |
Trenchard, Terri |
Self-published; helpful resource 9-13 age range |
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Boundaries and Relationships: Knowing, Enjoying and Protecting the Self |
Whitfield, Charles |
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Queen Bees and Wannabees: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence |
Wiseman, Rosalind |
Book “Mean Girls” is based on; website helpful: http://rosalindwiseman.com |
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Get Out of My Life… but First Can You Take Me and Cheryl to the Mall? |
Wolf, Anthony E. |
Excellent book for parents of adolescents, separate sections for boys and girls, talks about development and gives practical approaches both |
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I Would Listen to My Parents if They'd Just Shut Up: What to Say and Not Say When Parenting Teens |
Wolf, Anthony E. |
Adoption
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www.kaanet.com |
Resources for Korean adoptees |
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http://www.inthirdspace.net/ |
e-magazine is by and for transnational adoptees. “Third space” is a conceptual area that exists in between conventional categories of race, gender and national identities |
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Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self |
Brozinsky, David |
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Dreams Come True |
Clerman, Lisa and D’Elia, Amy |
A story about the blessings of adoption, based on experiences at an orphanage |
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www.cradlehope.org |
Cradle of Hope Adoption Center |
Excellent resources |
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Once They Hear My Name: Korean Adoptees Search for Identity |
Lammert, Marilyn & Hess, Mary Anne |
Edited book of nine real stories, based on interviews, of adult Korean adoptees. GWSCSW member Marilyn Lammert is one of the editors. Tapestry Books has other books about adoption |
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Lost & Found: The Adoption Experience |
Lifton, Betty Jean |
Other titles by author recommended |
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The Family of Adoption: Completely Revised and Updated |
Pavao, Joyce Maguire |
Other titles by author recommended |
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The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child |
Verrier, Nancy |
Other titles by author recommended |
Adult Children
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When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Adult Child Don’t Get Along |
Coleman, Joshua |
Written from the alienated parent's perspective |
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Don't Bite Your Tongue: How to Foster Rewarding Relationships with your Adult Children |
Nemzoff, Ruth |
Covers many aspects of relationships between parents and adult children including healthy boundaries |
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Emptying the Nest: Launching Your Young Adult toward Success and Self-Reliance |
Sachs, Brad |
Other titles by author recommended |
Boys
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Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys |
Kindlon, Dan & Thompson, Michael |
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Real Boys |
Pollack, William |
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I Don't Want to Talk About It |
Real, Terry |
Discusses cultural influence on men and boys and the role that depression plays to mask issues; Most excellent book |
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Why Boys Don't Talk and Why It Matters: A Parent’s Survival Guide to Connecting with Your Teen |
Shaffer, Susan Morris & Perlman-Gordon, Linda |
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The Courage to Raise Good Men |
Silverstein, Olga |
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Facts of Life for Boys |
Trenchard, Terri |
Self-published; helpful resource 9-13 age range |
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Get Out of My Life… but First Can You Take Me and Cheryl to the Mall? |
Wolf, Anthony E. |
Excellent book for parents of adolescents, separate sections for boys and girls, talks about development and gives practical approaches both |
Challenging Behaviors
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Your Defiant Child: Eight Steps to Better Behavior |
Barkley, Russell |
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Effective Parenting for the Hard-To-Manage Child: A Skills-Based Book |
DiGangi, Georgia A. & Kendall, Anne |
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Taking The Power Struggle Out of Parenting |
Ellison, Sharon |
4 CD set |
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How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk |
Faber, Adele & Mazlish, Elaine |
These two authors have also Written several other wonderful books on parenting |
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Parenting the Strong-Willed Child: The Clinically Proven Five-Week Program for Parents of Two- to Six-Year-Olds |
Forehand, Rex & Long, Nicholas |
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The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children |
Greene, Ross W. |
reframes defiance as a skills deficit |
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The Challenging Child |
Greenspan, Stanley |
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The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child |
Kazdin, Alan |
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Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic |
Kurcinka, Mary Sheedy |
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Try and Make Me: Simple Strategies that Turn-Off the Tantrums and Create Cooperation |
Levy, Ray & Hanlon, Bill |
Appropriate for age 2-12 |
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Setting Limits with Your Strong-Willed Child, Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition: Eliminating Conflict by Establishing CLEAR, Firm, and Respectful Boundaries |
Mackenzie Robert J. |
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When Anger Hurts Your Kids: A Parent’s Guide |
McKay, Matthew |
Reading Level-ALL |
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Positive Discipline: The Classic Guide to Helping Children Develop Self-Discipline, Responsibility, Cooperation, and Problem Solving Skills |
Nelsen, Jane |
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1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting |
Phelan, Thomas |
Relevant for age 2-12; additional titles by same author |
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ScreamFree Parenting |
Runkel, Hal |
Also available on audio |
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The Manipulative Child: How to Regain Control and Raise Resilient, Resourceful, and Independent Kids |
Swihart, Ernest W. Jr. & Cotter, Patrick |
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| From Chaos to Calm: Effective Parenting of challenging Children with ADHD and other Behavioral Problems | Heininger, Janet E & Weiss, Sharon | Suggestions for establishing order in the home |
Divorce/Separation & Single parenting
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http://singleparents.about.com/od/ |
Article for parents regarding how to speak with kids about parents' dating |
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The Good Divorce |
Ahrons, Connie |
Provides a roadmap (based on research) for a constructive approach to co-parenting |
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We're Still Family: What Grown Children Have to Say About Their Parent's Divorce |
Ahrons, Constance |
Guidance for maintaining family bonds through divorce, research data for support. |
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Second Chances: Men, Women and Children a Decade After Divorce |
Blakeslee, Sandra & Wallerstein, Judith |
Explores the impact of divorce on adults and children |
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When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Adult Child Don’t Get Along |
Coleman, Joshua |
Written from the alienated parent's perspective |
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Divorce Casualties: Protecting Your Children from Parental Alienation |
Darnell, Douglas |
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Don't Alienate the Kids! Raising Resilient Children while Avoiding High Conflict Divorce |
Eddy,Bill |
For parents; includes questionnaires to help them evaluate what alienating behaviors they are engaging in |
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The Truth About Children and Divorce: Dealing with the Emotions so You and Your Children Can Thrive |
Emery, Robert |
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The Parental Alienation Syndrome and the Differentiation Between Fabricated and Genuine Child Sexual Abuse |
Gardner, Richard |
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Caught in the Middle: Protecting the Children of High-Conflict Divorce |
Garrity, Carla & Baris, Mitchell |
Addresses co-parenting in high-conflict situations |
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50 Wonderful Ways to Be a Single-Parent Family |
Ginsberg, Barry |
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Healing Hearts: Helping Children and Adults Recover From Divorce |
Hickey, Elizabeth & Dalton, Elizabeth |
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Interventions for Children of Divorce: Custody, Access, and Psychotherapy |
Hodges, William & Weiner, Irving |
For clinician, theoretical context |
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Getting Apart Together: The Couple’s Guide to a Fair Divorce or Separation |
Kranitz, Martin A. |
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The Children's Book….For the Sake of the Children: A Communication Workbook for Separate Parenting after Divorce |
McKnight, Ericks |
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Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way |
Neuman, M. Gary & Romanowski, Patricia |
Developmentally based by chapter, including possible reactions, as well as ideas about how to help a child deal with feelings |
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How to Avoid the Divorce from Hell: And Dance Together at Your Daughter's Wedding |
Talia, Sue |
Educates reader regarding common pitfalls and provides useful solutions |
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Helping Children Cope With Divorce |
Teyber, Edward |
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Parents Are Forever: A Step-By-Step Guide to Becoming Successful Coparents After Divorce |
Thomas, Shirley |
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Surviving the Breakup: How Children and Parents Cope with Divorce |
Wallerstein, Judith & Kelly, Joan B. |
Addresses the short- and long-term effects of family dissolution |
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The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: A 25 Year Landmark Study |
Wallerstein, Judith, et. al. |
Addresses common feelings and experiences children of divorce |
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What About the Kids?: Raising Your Children Before, During, and After Divorce |
Wallerstein, Judy |
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What to Tell the Kids About Your Divorce |
Weyburne, Darlene |
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Why Did You Have To Get a Divorce? And When Can I Get a Hamster?: A Guide to Parenting Through Divorce |
Wolf, Anthony |
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| Wisdom for Separated Parents: Rearranging Around the Children to Keep Kinship Strong | Osborne, Judy |
Girls
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Author |
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Altered Loves: Mothers and Daughters During Adolescence |
Apter, Teri |
Other titles by author recommended |
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You Don’t Really Know Me: Why Mothers and Daughters Fight and How Both Can Win |
Apter, Teri |
Research-based; turned Anna Freud’s thesis about daughters’ “breaking their ties to their mothers” on its head. Shows how conflict is actually about maintaining a connection and renegotiating the connection. Highly recommended |
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It's So Amazing: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families |
Harris, Robie & Emberley, Michael |
Children’s book; covers menstruation |
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It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health |
Harris, Robie & Emberley, Michael |
Children’s book; covers menstruation |
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Why Girls Talk- and What They're Really Saying |
Perlman-Gordon, Linda |
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Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls |
Pipher, Mary |
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The Shelter of Each Other |
Pipher, Mary |
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The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book (American Girl Book) |
Schaefer, Valorie & Masse, Josee |
Versions for older and younger girls; covers menstruation |
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Odd Girl Out |
Simmons, Rachel |
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Queen Bees and Wannabees: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence |
Wiseman, Rosalind |
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Get Out of My Life… but First Can You Take Me and Cheryl to the Mall? |
Wolf, Anthony E. |
Excellent book for parents of adolescents, separate sections for boys and girls, talks about development and gives practical approaches both |
For Fathers
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The Expectant Father |
Brott, Armin |
Terrific resource; basically the same type of overview book as "What to Expect..." but from a man's perspective |
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Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads |
Greenburg, Gary |
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Becoming a Dad: The First Three Years |
John Carr |
Mind-Body Connection
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Relaxation and Wellness Techniques: Mastering the Mind-Body Connection |
Alvord, Mary Katherine & Zucker, Bonnie |
Bonne Zucker also has meditation recordings |
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Body Sense: The Science and Practice of Embodied Self-Awareness |
Fogel, Alan |
Provides explanation of brain-body connections in trauma; case studies, based on science to explain the effects and treatment of brain body connections |
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Healing Trauma: A Pioneering Program for Restoring the Wisdom of Your Body |
Levine, Peter |
All books by Peter Levine recommended |
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In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness |
Levine, Peter & Mate, Gabor |
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When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection |
Mate, Gabor |
Effect of the mind-body link on illness and health and the role that stress and one's individual emotional makeup play in an array of common diseases |
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The Body Remembers: The Psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma Treatment |
Rothschild, Babette |
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Secrets, Lies, Betrayals: How the Body holds the Secrets of a Life, and How to Unlock Them |
Scharff, Maggie |
Mindfulness
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Relaxation and Wellness Techniques: Mastering the Mind-Body Connection |
Alvord, Mary Katherine & Zucker, Bonnie |
Bonne Zucker also has meditation recordings |
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True Refuge: Peace and Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart |
Brach, Tara |
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Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha |
Brach, Tara |
free guided imagery www.tarabrach |
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Calming Your Anxious Mind: How Mindfulness and Compassion Can Free You From Anxiety, Fear, and Panic |
Brantley, Jeffrey & Kabat-Zinn, Jon |
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The Here and Now Habit |
Byrne, Hugh |
Local author |
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The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times |
Chodron, Pema |
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Comfortable With Uncertainty: 108 Teachings on Cultivating Fearlessness and Compassion |
Chodron, Pema |
Good for daily pithy readings |
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Body Sense: The Science and Practice of Embodied Self-Awareness |
Fogel, Alan |
Provides explanation of brain-body connections in trauma; case studies, based on science to explain the effects and treatment of brain body connections |
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Living Like You Mean It |
Fredericks, Ron |
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The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion |
Germer, Christopher |
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Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames |
Hanh, Thich Nhat |
Use of mindfulness to transform anger |
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Mindfulness for Beginners: Reclaiming the Present Moment, and Your Life |
Kabat-Zinn, Jon |
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Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life |
Kabat-Zinn, Jon |
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A Path With Heart: A Guide Through the Perils and Promises of Spiritual |
Kornfield, Jack |
Older book but has guided meditations in it that are easy to follow |
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A Wise Heart: A Guide to the Universal Teachings of Buddhist Psychology |
Kornfield, Jack |
Good for therapists |
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Bringing Home the Dharma: Awakening Right Where You Are |
Kornfield, Jack & Siegel, Daniel |
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Healing Trauma: A Pioneering Program for Restoring the Wisdom of Your Body |
Levine, Peter |
All books by Peter Levine recommended |
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In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness |
Levine, Peter & Mate, Gabor |
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Yoga Nidra: A Meditative Practice for Deep Relaxation and Healing |
Miller, Richard |
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http://www.healthjourneys.com |
Naparstek, Bella |
CDs available |
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The Body Remembers: The Psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma Treatment |
Rothschild, Babette |
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Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness |
Salzburg, Sharon |
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Real Happiness: The Power of Meditation: A 28-Day Program |
Salzburg, Sharon |
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Secrets, Lies, Betrayals: How the Body holds the Secrets of a Life, and How to Unlock Them |
Scharff, Maggie |
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The Mindful Way through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness |
Williams, Mark, et al. |
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| Calm, Ease, Smile, Breathe | Hahn, Thich Nhat | Book and CD - After listening to this, people will feel that to be alive and to breathe (preferable outside) is the greatest gift. This is a wonderful CD for bringing patients out of depression. |
| Indigo Dreams: Relaxation and Stress Management Bedtime Stories for Children – Improve Sleep, Relieve Stress and Anxiety | Lite, Lori | CD |
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www.comdcurbanmom.com |
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The Mom Book: 4278 of Mom Central’s Tips- For Moms, From Moms |
DeBroff, Stacy |
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Mother Nature: Natural Selection and the Female of the Species |
Hrdy, Sarah |
Biologically deterministic and thought provoking |
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Nursing Mother, Working Mother: The Essential Guide to Breastfeeding Your Baby Before and After Your Return to Work |
Pryor, Gale & Huggins, Kathleen |
Advise on nursing while working |
Postpartum depression/anxiety
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This Isn’t What I Expected: Overcoming Postpartum Depression |
Kleiman, Karen & Raskin, Valerie |
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Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts: Breaking the Cycle of Unwanted Thoughts in Motherhood |
Kleiman, Karen & Wenzel, Amy |
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The Art of Holding in Therapy: An Essential Intervention for Postpartum Depression and Anxiety |
Kleiman, Karen |
The author is a social worker and an expert in the field |
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The Postpartum Husband: Practical Solutions for Living with Postpartum Depression |
Kleiman, Karen |
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Moods in Motion: A Coloring and Healing Book for Postpartum Moms |
Kleiman, Karen & Braun, Lisa |
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What Am I Thinking: Having a Baby After Postpartum Depression |
Kleiman, Karen |
young children
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Your Two-Year Old, Terrible or Tender |
Ames, Louise Bates |
Part of a developmental series, starting with age one, and going through age 14 |
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A Good Enough Parent: A Book on Child-Rearing |
Bettelheim, Bruno |
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Raising Kids Who Can |
Bettner, Betty Lou & Lew, Amy |